Harnessing the Power of a Compliment
Posted by Liz Taylor Oct 22, 2012
Many people have a hard time accepting praise. We are all worthy of compliments but often feel ourselves getting flustered over them. When I used to receive compliments, I would deny, deflect, explain away and apologize before it ever occurred to me to gracefully say “Thank you.” But that’s all it takes. To graciously accept a compliment, all you need to say is “Thank you” and then add some glory back to the complimenter such as, “That means a lot, coming from you.”
If you feel the compliment is awkward, try saying something like, “What a kind thing to say” or “Thank you. That is very kind of you to say” and move on.
If the compliment is reflective of the work you’ve accomplished on a particular project, a great response could be, "Thank you! I tried really hard." This is a good response when somebody is praising your effort, as there is never any harm in acknowledging effort and that the outcome wasn’t simply a fluke.
Also, understand that you do not have to give a compliment in return unless you want to. If you are just trying to be polite by returning a compliment, you could come across as insincere.
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