Getting Ahead in Business- 10 Body Language Tips
Posted by Liz Taylor Feb 26, 2013
Do you sometimes feel that people read you incorrectly? Body Language plays a vital role in business and it’s important you’re aware of the details. Small changes in your body language can radically change your job performance and career. Read the following ten tips to make sure you make the right impression:
1. Have strong posture. As common sense as this sounds, your posture truly gives clues about your level of confidence and composure. It’s important to sit or stand up straight and imagine a string tied from the top of your head to the ceiling. Make sure your shoulders are pulled back too.
2. Avoid pointing and hand talking. People who visibly express their emotions with hand gestures can quickly overwhelm others. In situations where you want to maximize your authority, minimize your movements and keep gestures about waist high. When you appear calm and contained, you look more powerful.
3. Don’t use distracting gestures. This includes: picking lint off your clothing, checking the time, inspecting your fingernails, playing with your jewelry or twirling your hair. Small movements parlay nervousness, insecurity, boredom and uneasy feelings.
4. Stop resting hands behind your head or placing on the hips. This is mistaken as a sign of superiority and bigheadedness. Only use these gestures if you are with close friends.
5. Refrain from crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets. If you put your hands in your pockets or cross them in front of your chest, you’ll be viewed as closed off. The best way to use your hands is to simply appear open. Your hands should be in front of you as you naturally gesture.
6. Steer clear of too much head tilting and nodding. Only use head tilts and nodding when you want to show concern, interest or want to encourage people to expand on what they are saying. When you want project power and authority, keep your head straight, still and in a more neutral position.
7. Use a firm handshake. People with a weak handshake are judged to be passive and less confident. To effectively give a proper handshake, face the other person directly, extend your arm and make sure you have palm-to-palm contact with the other person. Use the “v” between your forefinger and thumb to go directly into the web of the others person’s. Look your partner in the eyes, smile, pump your hands two or three times and release.
8. Avert from holding objects in front of your body. Examples can include a notebook, coffee cup, handbag, etc. Holding objects in front of your body indicates shyness and resistance, such that you’re hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others. Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.
9. Respect distance. Standing too close makes people feel uncomfortable. Most people consider the four square feet of space immediately surrounding their body to be personal. If someone takes a step away from you while you are involved in a conversation, take it as a hint that you are standing way too close.
10. This is an uncomfortable one for me to tell you, but do not stand with your hands covering your genital area. This posture almost guarantees that you’ll lose respect before you even speak a word. This is a sign of a person who is nervous and unsure of themselves. This stance pushes your shoulders forward and makes your entire body look smaller and weaker. Keep your hands at your sides.
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